Thursday 13 February 2014

When did you last remind yourself of something you learned?

I'm trying something new here folks. In my coaching and facilitating I regularly draw and explain models of leadership or management and personal development models so that people can understand a situation or problem they are having through another lens. It can help people contextualise their thoughts and find a more skilful or helpful way of working with issues.

On the back of this I am trying to create a series of youtube clips of the theories and models so that people can refer back to them. Each one is around 5 minutes long mainly because my attention span won't last much longer so I figure other peoples won't either. I’ve used a simple app on the iPad to create the tutorials which looks a little like a chalk board.

If the background is black it is a management or leadership model and if the background is orange, it is a personal development model. Look out for a new series in a different colour, which will be looking at extreme teams – success factors for teams in challenging situations.

I hope you enjoy these and do let me have any feedback that might improve them.

Ever onwards


Piers Carter

Tuesday 11 February 2014

Can you teach an old dog new tricks?

Yes, so get on with it!

That’s what I felt like saying to one of my clients last week. She was moaning about her staff, moaning about her boss, moaning about clients etc etc. Now I know I’m supposed to be a non-judging, listening ear as a coach but, man, did she wind me up! I wanted to shake her and say “Stop bloody moaning and get a grip. There’s people dying in Syria!”

She’s a newish client and has been put forward for coaching because of performance issues around her attitude and I can see why.

Negativity seems to be the main issue about pretty much everything. She tells me with a certain degree of satisfaction,

“That’s just me, that’s the way I am, I’m not going to change now”

And she won’t if she sticks with that mindset.  BUT, and here’s the thing, we can change, we can change all sorts about how we think, our minds and our brains and how they function and are wired. What is emerging in the field of neuroscience is that we have a huge potential to massively change our brains and develop new skills, change old habits and create totally new ways of thinking which we might previously thought not possible.

We have 100 billion different neurons in our brains and each one has up to 10,000 possible synaptic connections and each one of those is responsible for our thoughts, actions, emotions etc and the brain is ultimately plastic in that it is capable of creating an almost infinite number new connections well into old age. We just have to begin the process of making that happen.

Each thought we have, be it positive or negative, is like a seed that if cultivated will continue to propagate and grow. So if we have negative, angry, stressed out thoughts then that’s exactly the type of mind or brain we are creating for ourselves for the future. Like a garden, the seeds we cast will be the plants that grow.

If you have a propensity to road rage, that anger outburst will be a synaptic connection you’ve developed and become ‘good at’. So. That means you can learn a new response, more thoughtful and considered if you practice.

It all takes time but consider that you are creating the mind you are going to live in, in the future and that might change how you think.

Here’s a little thought pattern you can use;

Pause – Challenge – Choose

PAUSE when you have an unskillful thought. Take a breath and ask if this is the thought you want to cultivate.

CHALLENGE your assumptions about the situation, about yourself, about what you think you know and what is truth.

CHOOSE a more skilful way to respond. Think about forgiving the perceived wrong doer, the late direct report, the annoying boss, the awkward client.

As Donald Hebb postulated in 1949, Neurons the fire together, wire together. So if you want to change your thoughts, change your thoughts. Its accumulative and I’ve tried it so, empirically, I can vouch for it.

So, can I teach that client of mine she can learn new tricks? Let’s wait and see.


Piers